Posted on: July 18, 2016
What is it about expectation? Expectation is the root of all heartache. If only it is possible to always set low ones, we will be pleasantly surprised all the time by the outcomes. It is impossible though as we subconsciously set and change our expectations.
Recently, with the power vested in my TV by Netflix, I watched some of my favorite childhood TV shows. I naturally had high hopes since they formed some of the fondest memories of my childhood. Unfortunately, I had an epiphany instead that some of them are just mind numbing. No wonder my parents often told me to go outside and play… The TV Shows met my expectations a long time ago, but they never change and adapt to my current taste. Some of them are still great by the way, and I can tolerate the low screen definition of old TV Shows!
Every relationship places expectations on the people involved. Many failed relationships are caused by subconscious expectations that are never met. Knowing what the essential things that you are looking for in a partner can greatly help you find a compatible mate. Of course life always comes with its share of surprises, so the person you end up with may not meet all of your original expectations. However, it’s still important to know what makes a relationship for you, so that you don’t end up in a relationship that ultimately breaks. By knowing what your and your partner’s expectations are, you’ll be able to work together to find compromise.
Before we go over a few questions in depth to consider when you’re beginning to think about what makes or breaks a relationship for you, tap this invitation link on your phone to spontaneously answer these questions on your own or with your significant other using the Know & Tell app.
The Know & Tell app is the best way to get to know yourself and your partner better.
Click or tap here to review our in-depth analysis of the questions:
- Do I Expect Constant Communication?
We live in the age of the Internet; we’re saturated in global communications like never before. With exponential growth of social media and smartphones, people are communicating with one another throughout the entire day. It’s not uncommon for many couples to literally text all day long, throughout work, and any other activities they may be doing. While this practice is becoming more of the norm, ask yourself if this is something that you want in your relationship. Communicating with your partner all day long through FaceTime, Skype, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Messenger, or texting can make you feel like your partner’s days are your days. It can also lead to you both having nothing to really talk about at the end of the day. This doesn’t apply to every couple of course, but this question is inevitably something that every couple will have to ask themselves.
- How Do We Like to Enjoy Our Free Time?
You and your partner could have a ton of differences, but if you can still enjoy free time together; your relationship has a better chance of working out. It’s crucial to have at least a few things that you and your partner enjoy doing together… for fun. Netflix binging is enormous right now. However, if your partner only ever wants to go hiking when all you want to do is catch up on Orange Is the New Black, you may want to consider some middle ground compromises then.
- What Is the End Goal of the Relationship?
This is one of the biggest things that you and your partner should know about one another from the beginning. If you are looking for a committed relationship that could eventually lead to marriage, you should be sure that your partner feels the same way. If he/she just wants something casual, and non-committal, you could be in for a rude awakening later on down the road. People far too often avoid this question because of fear of looking too committed, or too uncommitted. Trudge through the awkwardness and talk about what level of commitment will make or break your relationship. It will save you a lot of unwanted heartache.
Finally, expectations may change. So, it is important to revisit the questions above with your significant other once in a while.
We hope that these tips have given you something to think about. You can learn even more about yourself and your partner by playing the Know & Tell app today!
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